Friday, September 7, 2012

lately

well, let's see now---what do i have to share today----

i am going to be alone pretty much all day, as robyn and her bf are going on some sort of adventure/surprise to robyn today----they are so cute, yesterday was their first month anniversary, of officially dating :)

i really like him, as a matter of fact i kinda picked him out----really i should give God the credit, as i had done a lot of praying about the right one---and who knows, he seems to be---

last night we went to the funeral home, for a young man, whose father died---this young man has been like a member of our family for a long time-----many of my sons friends were there to support their friend---it still shocks me when i see some of them and hear them talking about how old they are all getting, who has gray hair and how many children they each have---but it's so nice that these boys are still close and bonded for life--

years ago, i had planned to do a documentary on this group of boys in our neighborhood and quite a few others---they had named themselves, the "fernbrook crew"--after our neighborhood's name-----they were not a gang, just a close bunch of kids, hanging out---getting into the occasional trouble, but mostly just growing up and "chilling"-------i never did the documentary and sometimes still think about doing one----


lately, i feel at loose ends---sorta like i am watching life go by and being okay with it----i wait for the drive to do something and it just does not come----i say to myself---i'm fine, but then i feel like i shouldn't be--ya know what i mean------it's kinda like that january poem i wrote--you may remember, the one where i write about, wanting to sleep and eat waffles-----

but in reality, i think i am nesting----not for a baby----that would have gotten your attention---but for robyn and all of her life plans-hopes- and daydreams and love life------

sometimes as a parent, that is what your focus is on----------and my other children of course---but it's like, i have the last little birdie, i have to get ready to fly away---

so i leave you now with a thought that has been rolling around in this almost post summer brain of mine----have you ever tried frozen waffles and how do you think they compare with homemade-

55 comments:

  1. I have had frozen waffles, and they don't compare to homemade at all. Our families weekly tradition is to have homemade waffles and bacon on Sunday mornings. We have been doing it for almost 4 yrs now, and my 7 yr old will not let us away with not doing it now. I love it when that happens, when the person you were doing something for falls in love with it so much they don't want it to ever stop.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. i know homemade are much better--my sister used to make the best one i had ever had----funny story, my mom gave me a waffle iron one time long ago--i was relating to her how i was enjoying using it and she says--you better watch out, eating those waffles will make you fat! i wish i could have breakfast with you!

      Delete
  2. Frozen waffles were good enough for quick morning breakfasts, but the kids preferred my homemade pancakes when they were little. However if you double toast the frozen ones, they get crispier and taste better. Not so much nutrition, though.

    You're having a 'mamarazzi' moment, a term I saw in a cartoon showing mothers who can't quit looking after their 'little birdies'. But I know how you feel. . .

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. actually they are pretty nutritious--some of them---they even help with my blood sugar levels----and thanks for getting that this really wasn't about the waffles ;)

      Delete
  3. What a fun question, Lynn. Yes, I've tried frozen waffles and sometimes enjoy them for the convenience, but a real old-fashioned made-from-scratch waffle is hard to beat.

    Now you've made me want to buy a real waffle iron...and real butter...and real maple syrup... :D

    ReplyDelete
  4. When my kids were little I always served up frozen waffles. Now that they are grown, I wish I'd had the time to give them only homemade.
    And I know what you mean. Sometimes I feel like I am just watching and waiting now since retirement. A waffle would be very nice today while I wait.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. haha thanks donna--the fluffy frozen ones, kinda like belgium ones are the best ;)

      Delete
  5. The longing in your voice is what I also feel. My 'robins' have all flown, and I feel like I am hanging onto my stuff with just a spider silk.

    Homemade waffles, definitely. Frozen are only for desperation.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. or lazy people----thanks for getting it susan :)

      Delete
  6. Honestly, I'm not sure I've ever had real waffles. Lol

    ReplyDelete
  7. I actually love frozen waffles. However, we have a waffle maker and I think nothing compares with "real" waffles, with lots of fruit, and whipped cream and jam and peanut butter and powdered sugar and . . . not all on the same waffle, mind you :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. in reality i was only joking, i too adore homemade waffles--just too lazy and feeling too bad in the mornings--so it's in with the frozen haha thanks judy:)

      Delete
  8. I think what you are feeling is totally understandable. As parents, the center or f our universe are always our children. After watching them grow, mature, and become independent, we want to witness all and help them as much we can in every step they take. Take your time, enjoy every second with your last chick.

    About waffles... I only eat frozen waffles when I'm starving and there's no other option. Freshly made are the best kind all the way! =)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. thank you gina, you made me feel better and normal :)

      Delete
  9. I know exactly how you feel. The drive to do something is evading me as well. I do things, but I make myself do them and it's just going through the motions. Not sure what's up with that although I do take comfort in the fact that there are others out there. You know, so I don't feel weird. Deanie just broke up with her boyfriend. And we all thought he was the one. And we were very attached to him. I hope this doesn't happen to y'all. I think the documentary sounds interesting. I'd love to see it should you decide to do it. Have a great weekend!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. what no waffle comment haha just kidding--thanks for the comforting words--oh and i am sorry about your daughter's bf--yes you just never know---i hope you get your groove back too :)

      Delete
  10. Drive is hard to muster up in this season of life. I just don't feel like there is anything pressing urging me to really get up and go. I know that's not true but I spend a lot of time trying to motivate myself to do something. Anything. The thing I want to do but lack the drive to do : )

    Frozen waffles do not compare to homemade. Homemade are so much better!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. i know, that's exactly how i have been feeling, no drive for almost anything--i hope you feel better soon too--thanks joyce <3

      Delete
  11. I reckon ya just can't beat homemade no matter what it is.

    ReplyDelete
  12. You post got me thinking, well my babies are 7 and 14 (haha babies..my son would roll his eyes if he knows I call him 'baby') Anyway, I'm kind of not looking foward for the day he breaks away from my 'embrace' and doesn't need me. Which is coming really soon. hmmm.

    Ooooh Congrats to Robyn on the first month anniversary of dating. :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. awwww you've got a ways to go, it will be alright, it's not really so much that with me as just a lack of interest i guess--i will send them your congrats, thanks cecilia :)

      Delete
  13. It's so nice that you get along well with your daughter's boyfriend. The documentary sounds like a great idea. Your drive will come back when you least expect it. Maybe you should take Robyn and her boyfriend out for homemade waffles to give you the inspiration! Julie

    ReplyDelete
  14. thanks julie, i toy around with the idea of "one day" doing the documentary --thanks for the encouragement---maybe they can make waffles for me--:)

    ReplyDelete
  15. I hope it all works out for Robyn and her date. So far so good!

    Frozen waffles are not as good as homemade, but they work when you're in a hurry.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. thanks sherry--they went out to lunch and dinner antiquing and to the movies---they seemed like they had a great time---haha i know, that is why i keep the frozen ones around---i am so not a morning person--if i made waffles, it would have to be at night :)

      Delete
  16. Frozen don't compare to homemade.
    I know the feeling your describing. I went through a few weeks of it before my daughter left for college. All my thoughts seemed to be on her and I felt like I was just waiting around.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. that is it susan, it is like my life is on stand-by and i don't even want to read a magazine while i wait, i just kinda sit and stare haha--i hope you aren't missing your daughter too much and that she's doing well :)

      Delete
  17. I'm thinking about everything that's going on in my son's life now. He turned sixteen this summer and I worry for him. I try to think of everything and make sure we talk to him about as much as possible. Even he says how different it is for him as a teen than it was for us. I told him we know! That's why we're always talking about something! I know of his hopes and dreams and we want to see him reach all his goals. We don't want to see anyone hurt him. Sometimes as mothers you actually do feel helpless.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. i know, it's like our individual life is all about our kids life and that's okay---but it's like your son says it is harder in some ways i think--for one thing it seems there are too many roads to choose from---i have always enjoyed shopping in smaller stores--less choices, less confusion for me--my life out-look is similar---helpless is what may lead to this feeling or lack of feelings i have--thanks for the insight marie :)

      Delete
  18. Homemade waffles are much better, but I do like the convenience of the frozen ones. I always mean to make up a batch of my own and then freeze them, but I never seem to find the time.

    I can relate to what you're feeling. I'm experiencing it now as my son is staring school and becoming more independent. I think restless is a good way to describe it. *Hugs*

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. haha--all this waffle talk has made me want to get my old waffle iron back out---almost ;)---i know you can relate, i remember how hard it was when my two oldest boys started preschool---quite a change, i hope you are doing okay with it and that he's enjoying it----restless is a good word for it---hugging back dana <3

      Delete
  19. I can settle for frozen waffles, but I like homemade waffles much better.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. yeah, i settle for them everyday---but i wouldn't be opposed to homemade :)

      Delete
  20. Lynn, it's such a great thing that you like Robyn's BF. That makes such a huge difference... especially if it makes it to marriage!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. oh i know--like i said-- i liked him first haha--seriously, when i first saw him--i knew it was something different in a good way about him--thanks ms. a :)

      Delete
  21. It is scary when I go back to my old village. Those friends that are still alive look old. Most are bald, grey or have bits dropping off. They think I have a picture in my attic but maybe my years at sea were healthier than I thought.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. hey jp, are you back yet, i keep checking---our friends do tend to look old huh ;)

      Delete

  22. its such a nice & Awesum blog provide info
    hope more people discover your blog because you really know what you’re talking about. Can’t wait to read more from you!
    for more plz visit
    debt settlement plan

    ReplyDelete
  23. i don't know if any of you will see this comment--but i just want to say, how much each of you means to me and how sweet and special i think each of you are---thanks for taking the time to read and comment--this is a unique friendship we bloggers enjoy and i wanted to let you all know i realize the beauty of this link in life<3

    ReplyDelete
  24. Hey Lynn,
    I think I know the feeling you're describing...loose ends, restless, not knowing what's coming next. Well expressed.
    I do have a bit of good news for you, though! You won the Oracle book from the A-Z website! Please contact me at tndowney (at) gmail (dot) com with
    1) what format you'd like
    2) Your contact info
    Thanks and congrats.
    Oracle winner!
    There were 27 comments.
    Random.org picked 15.
    That means that Lynn Proctor is our lucky winner!
    Please email me at tndowney (at) gmail (dot) com and let me know what format you’d like your book in, as well as contact info.
    Congrats!
    Thanks to all who hung out with J.C again. We appreciate you!
    Tina
    Tina @ Life is Good

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. thanks---i am getting my daughter to help me respond--as i am sorta confused--thanks again tina :)

      Delete
  25. OOps. Looks like my cut and paste pasted too much...sorry about that...
    Tina

    ReplyDelete
  26. Lynn, I'm feeling the same way for some reason. Many things I want to do, but no real motivation for anything and too many interruptions. So, I'm floating along, hit and miss. I keep thinking things will improve, but it seems like this is the pace for middle age. I'm not sad or mad, just neutral about things, and I'd like more joy or enthusiasm in my life. Overall, I know God is good and He's with me...maybe the slump will pass. As for the waffles - I have a great whole wheat recipe that we love. When I make them, I use all the batter and freeze the extras - just like the store-bought ones. :-) Thinking of you. :-)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. we sound like we are sharing the same brain haha--thanks for the understanding---thinking of you too--hugs <3

      Delete

  27. its such a nice & Awesum blog provide info
    hope more people discover your blog because you really know what you’re talking about. Can’t wait to read more from you!
    for more plz visit
    debt management plan

    ReplyDelete
  28. I think homemade waffles taste better, but the frozen Eggo waffles are my daughter's favorite. I don't mind a bit seeing as popping one in the toaster is quick, easy, and a lot less messy.

    I can relate to how you are feeling about life with a good dose of envy. Things for me are so completely hectic and stressful. There are so many things I would like to do, so many I need to do and time is just zooming. Life is feeling like a wild roller coaster right now.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. i know--sometimes we just want to throw our hands up and scream---thanks tamara :)

      Delete
  29. Loved the post and I prefer home made waffles. :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. thanks hon and me too--probably aren't gonna ever taste the hm ones again though ;)

      Delete
  30. Sometimes we just do go through these times, when we sit quite happily to wait for the thistledown to settle on us and germinate a seed of something new. You're moving on, I think....

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. oh wow thanks jenny, i really had not thought of it that way!:)

      Delete