Monday, October 1, 2012

coffee, birthday's and maybe last visits

i knew i wanted to write this morning--but in all honesty, i was stressed about the idea----i know i share stuff like that information, that is certainly not necessary, but i find that kinda insight into others, interesting, so i hope as i share the real me with you--you will find it easier to relate to me also----

speaking of writing, i have to let you know, we were all---we being the blogging community--being talked about at my family get together saturday----someone, who will remain nameless, was accusing  me of being on facebook all the time---i let him know, that i was not on there as much these days, as i am busy with my blog-----others started to ask me about my blog--like why do i use the dashes and who were my blogging friends and where were they from---

when i told them you guys were from all over the world---they cackled haha---they were so funny they thought----but it's okay---i told them, they just didn't get it and one day they would be honored to tell people about me----you all get that i am kidding right :)

we celebrated at my dad's, his 88th birthday and my aunt from colorado's visit----i could not stop staring at my aunt bea, as she is so much like her big sis, my mom-----she and i share a couple of things--she is the third girl and she also had 8 kids---


friday night we had the coffee house---it was pretty cool---i had a friend from high school come by the coffee house---he is a pastor in california---it was so nice to catch up with him a bit and it also seems, my pastor and his wife had many mutual connections with my friend tom------i think tom also enjoyed the music--

we had planned to have a young man from nashville perform---but at the last minute, he had a problem and was unable to come----we were blessed to get someone that had played with us before---he is so good---he has played all around the richmond area-------he plays a lot of old stuff----way before his time---robyn's bf brought his guitars too and played with him---they were really in tune with one another, as dillon(the bf) is also an old soul ----

another kid---rapped a commentary of life to one of their selections---good creative flowing night--

yesterday, frank and i went to williamsburg va. to see my aunt--she is on hospice and from what i could tell, is in the last few days---i think it will be in the next couple of weeks, no longer, from what i know of death---i told frank, i wouldn't be surprised if she was waiting for her wedding anniversary october the 11th---and how strange that would be, since my mom died on her anniversary----

i told aunt alice i would see her on the other side and related to her, memories of all the many happy times at her house and my grandmother "queenie's"---where we sat on the porch---talked and fanned and played softball in the field and watched uncle elwin do show and tell at christmas time---of all the gifts under their tree and who had given them what----i told her elwin was waiting and her mother and father, queenie, her baby brother and many others---she seemed to be aware, somewhere in that weakened form of the body she once had----i cried and frank read the bible---she didn't know much, but one time when frank had stopped reading, she muttered, "read that little song book"---frank read again from the Psalms--

so a weekend full of family -old friends and life and lives probably ending-----we missed all of the grand-kids football games, but the Good Lord willing, there will be others--


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  1. Don't discount your anniversary theory. I read long ago that people die more often in the six months following a birthday than the six months before. My brother-in-law's father passed away last week, aged 90 and three days. And, life goes on.

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    1. i have read that too joanne---wow your bil had a long life and yes it does go on :)

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  2. Loved your posting! I'm really sorry to hear about your aunt.

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  3. Weekends are made for friends and families. Good byes can be so sorrowful though there is comfort in getting to say it.

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    1. yes i think we have the week days and weekend thing all mixed up haha----yes it is nice to great that chance to say goodbye for now--thanks susan :)

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  4. I guess only bloggers "get" other bloggers. I have made some very good friends though my blog. I actually look forward to going to their blogs and seeing what's new with them. It's so much better than getting on FB with my real life friends and family and having to read constant nagging and complaining, you know?

    So sorry about your aunt. I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers!

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    1. haha yes i know exactly what you mean theresa;) and thank you so much :)

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  5. I think you need cheering up. Toast some frozen waffles.

    It's sad to see our loved ones winding down. My MIL is in a care home at 96 yrs. I took closeup photos of her this weekend. I'm always afraid it may be our last chance to do so.

    That's funny about blogging being a dinner conversation topic! But, why not?

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    1. yeah life wouldn't be life without the sad times---but i have always felt there is a beauty in pain--not all pain------so good you took pictures, i wanted to do the same--but i don't have any legal rights with her and i don't know now what she would want----haha i know, it is funny how you blogging friends were a hot topic and so right, why not indeed--thanks d.g. :)

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  6. It sounds like a nearly perfect weekend to me. It's so good that you got that visit with your aunt. I know it meant so much to her- and to you. My dad is facing radiation treatments for prostate cancer when they return from Europe and I'm stressing out about it like a crazy person. He's not though. He leans on his faith and he completely trusts his doctor. All I can think is, I don't want to lose my dad.

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    1. awwww i am sorry you and your dad are having to go through this---but how wonderful about his faith---but i understand all about having faith and still being upset---love and prayers <3

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  7. the whole circle of life, huh?! good for you for keeping the family connections going...so many (us) move away and move on and move out of each others lives ...
    the blogging community! well, seems my neighbors are in a tizzy about a post I wrote about 7th grade girls..oh my gosh, it was meant to be an innocent observation on human nature not a finger pointing at anyones kids! the party we were at sat i think the neighbor was so pissed off at me she could have shot me dead and not felt a drop of regret!

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    1. thanks annmarie--wow i will have to revisit your post--i don't remember thinking it should have been such a big deal---well at least ya got people interested and talking huh ;)

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  8. Old souls are the loveliest.

    Very Lynn post.

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  9. I am a huge believer in waiting to die on certain days. In the end, it is whatever gives the person peace in their last moments that matters. One of my co-workers died on Sunday... even last week he was hopeful of coming back to work. It hit us all pretty hard.

    How wonderful it was that you could be there for her. (((HUGS)))

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    1. i am starting to believe this too julie--i am sorry about your friend---thank you --and hugging back :)

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  10. Personally, I believe my Dad, who had been battling cancer, waited for my Mom to pass to make sure she was taken care of. Three weeks later, he joined her.

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  11. oh yes i am sure this is what happened---what a great love story--thanks ms. a <3

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  12. Hi Lynn,

    Sounds like a lovely family weekend and happy birthday to your Dad. Sorry to hear about your Aunt and nice that you could get to visit her.

    Have a good week
    Hugs
    Carolyn

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    1. thanks so much carolyn--i hope you have a blessed week and hugging back :)

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  13. I know my mother-in-law waited to leave until our visit. The night she died we'd gone to see her, then left to have dinner with other relatives in the area. During dinner my husband's teeth clamped down on his fork as if his jaw had decided to clench on its own. He said, "Mom's gone."

    She was.

    So much we don't understand logically.

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    1. it is all a beautiful mystery of life and love isn't it---i remember my grandmother's death was the same--she died hours after almost all of the family had come to see her for one last time <3

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  14. So sorry about your aunt, but glad you got to see her in her final days. My brother read a lot from the Psalms when he saw my mom in her final days. People who don't blog don't get the blogging community we have. I was trying to explain it to my sister in law. I think she thought I was crazy, LOL, but we do have a community here; told her we pray for each other, cry for each other's sadness and pain, laugh together, congratulate achievements, etc. It sounds weird, but it does actually work and for that I am grateful that it does work.

    Happy belated birthday to your dad; glad you guys could get together for a celebration!

    betty

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    1. it is true--i do feel you guys joy and pain and pray for each one's needs-----thanks betty, you are right on time, because actually today is my dad's real birthday :)

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  15. So sorry to hear about your aunt. It was lovely that you went and shared with her all the fond memories you will carry with her in them.

    My father died on his 53rd wedding anniversary. Strange.

    Thanks for the post!

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    1. i hear that so many times---it does always amaze me though---thank you :)

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  16. I'm sorry about your aunt but am glad that you were able to spend time with her. *hugs*

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    1. thanks dana--i wish she were closer--hugs your way too<3

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  17. That is an extremely full weekend. Sorry to hear about your aunt.

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    1. it really was---i was dreading all that it held, but God gave me the strength to get through it! thanks libby :)

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  18. It is a shame that many non-bloggers really don't understand all of the benefits involved. Happy belated birthday to your dad. I'm also sorry about your aunt. I'm sure that she appreciated your visit. Julie

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    1. i know haha they don't know what they are missing do they julie--thanks for the well wishes :)

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  19. Happy belated birthday to you dad! Sorry about your aunt.

    And yes - people who don't blog, don't understand how nice it is to be part of the blogging community!

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    1. thanks sherry--haha i know, they don't get us ;)

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  20. I love your dashes. I use them all the time too. And so glad you got to have that time with your aunt--precious.

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    1. haha i love that you love my dashes---thanks meredith :)

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  21. Blogging seems to be so much like having pen pals, which we often had back when I was in grade school and even high school, only we get to have hundreds of them instead of one or two. I love the bloggers I've met.

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  22. I'm sorry about your aunt, Lynn. Your blog is perfect and don't you let anyone tell you it isn't. Your lovely personality shines through. And, yes, you do have friends around the world who follow your every move - I'm from Portugal (well, I live there, I'm a Brit really)

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    1. awwww you are so sweet--and i love that we all have friends in far places---again, thanks for the kind encouragement susan :)

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  23. You always amaze me with your wisdom and the tranquil resignation at the way life has to go. I very much admire you for your strength and wish you the best. May God bring peace to your Aunt as she departs, and contentment to you and your family.

    Thank you for sharing your life as is and don't let others change your style, it is exactly why so many of us keep coming back.

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    1. you so have the gift of encouragement gina----i too admire you and hope you realize the gem you are--thanks so much sweetie :)

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  24. I think your time w/ your aunt was beautiful...just assuring the dying that it's OK to go, that they will see loved ones, that's important. We did that for my SIL when she died. I think it helped on our end, too. :-) Our anniversary is OCt. 11. :-)
    My family and friends think blogging is a bit goofy...some little thing to keep me busy. I don't care. It feeds my soul somehow. Love your thoughts.


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    1. yes, i feel she is more than ready to go---i think people wait for people too---i know my mother's last week, the family had been there lots of the days, but frank and i had stayed most of the nights with my dad---her last night, i just had to go home and get some rest--one of my sister's stayed and as my brother came that morning so she could go home--my mother let go, when my brother, her baby was there with her--i really believe she was waiting for him---i know haha we bloggers are unique huh---thanks mare :)

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  25. Hi Lynn, I just ran across your blog today. Looks interesting!
    This post reminded me of a poem I posted on one of my blogs. Sometimes non-bloggers just don't get it.
    http://rixrhymes.blogspot.com/2010/05/blog-pressure.html

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    1. hi rick--i am glad to know a fellow blogger and poet--thanks for stopping by :)

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