Thursday, July 25, 2013

one day

good thursday morning all----lots still going on and on and on hahaha--i know, i hear ya--enjoy it!!

sadly i want to share with you, my two friends battling cancer, have gone to be with the Father--they passed away less than a week apart-----i am glad i saw one of my friends a couple of weeks before he died---it was a sweet visit, he was having a rather good day and as i held his hand while frank prayed, i felt he was a little boy---as he was not the touchy feely kind of guy, and as i am not too----i struggled with the over-whelming desire to hold him close and cry-----settling for asking him if i could kiss his head---as i did, i lingered a bit--as if there was something unsaid or like there was anything important i could add to his life ending----


my other dear friend was a lady i go to church with--a lady my dad hired to help with my mother, during the last year of her life----such a sweetheart---she had become an extended member of our family----as i finished writing another thinking of you card for her---i got the call from my father that she had gone---

as with life, the sadness does not stop and the joys do not cease to happen---many times, side by side----

robyn has many of her closest friends and family members in her wedding party---several of her best friends had moved away in this last year or so, and were not going to make it to the wedding---

last week, one of these friends, had a tragic loss in her family, which has brought her back home----she is now going to be in the wedding-----robyn has cried so much for her friend's loss and the sad reason she is able to be there-

i still find myself, counting the days, literally---and also in a weird way---i have realized, i am not as concerned with the details and the chaos----

there is a lot i cannot share---for now---maybe a book one day----who am i kidding----but i did think i had a pretty good idea for one----even robyn liked it-----it is about a mother of the bride's point of view of the wedding----sort of a dark comedy---

but first i gotta get that one "love don't buy no tires"---done-----i dedicate today's blog to my friend and hopefully, one day, co-writer, susan

26 comments:

  1. Ooh, I'm looking forward to that book. ;)

    Lynn, thanks for opening your heart and sharing these sweet, but sad experiences. I think it's so easy to get caught up in the busy-busy of life and forget what really matters. I think that was the thing I had the hardest time with while living in NYC--the fact that people value life less in big cities. It's good to be away from that.

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    1. thanks crystal--i just might write a book again, who knows---i may have a lot more free time and hopefully less stress----thanks for caring :)

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  2. My prayers are with your friends' families and you. Losing those you love is a chunk out of your heart.

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    1. it really is---it is strange how my younger friend grabbed my heart more in his death than all of my life knowing him--thank you susan

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  3. I just want you to know I would buy either of those books! Im so sorry for losses everyone there is going through. I think its lovely that you were able to see your friend before he passed and that kiss meant a lot in that moment....more than you probably know...Praying for all of you. Z

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    1. i know the kiss meant so much to me--it was like a spiritual connection--thank you very much zoe

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  4. I'm sorry for your friends slipping away. Even when you expect the loss, it's a blow.
    There will be a lovely wedding soon...

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    1. you are right, joanne, there is just no real preparing yourself too much---thank you, i hope it will be all my daughter imagines :)

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  5. I'm sorry for your losses, Lynn. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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  6. So sorry for your losses! Makes one definitely rethink what's important in life. I am glad there is a wedding to look forward to. That helps to remind that there is still joy to be had.

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    1. it is good to look forward--and hard sometimes to look behind--thanks theresa :)

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  7. Oh, my gosh, Lynn. Words fail me but I have read this and I am sending you my love, support and prayers.

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  8. You're in my thoughts and prayers. I hope the days get brighter for you.
    hugs,
    Marie

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    1. thank you marie, i hope so too, i really can't complain or i shouldn't---hugging back :)

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  9. I am sorry to hear about your friends. Even if it a release from pain for them, it is tough to say good-bye.

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  10. it really is, hard to say a final good-bye here--thanks ruth :)

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  11. Friends and acquaintances depart more frequently with age. I'll just be thankful if I reach my 70th in the next few months considering how many folk I've said goodbye too.
    I may live another year or thirty to get my telegram from the Queen of England, but I'm philosophical ! (Is that the right word).It's life.

    Looking forward to reading "love don't buy no tires"

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    1. they do indeed---although two dear ones that left this life last week were far from old----yep, that seems like the right word and i hope you do get that telegram! truth be told, my friend and i have a running gag about the tire book, but it probably would be a hoot-:)

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  12. I'm very sorry, Lynn. Loss is so very hard and the grief process can be long. I will keep good thoughts for you during this time. I hope you're able to finish Love Don't Buy No Tires when things settle down.

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    1. the tire book has really been like a metaphor in my friend susan and my lives---we actually might write a book about stress first---she is my friend that just lost her husband, still can't believe he is gone---thanks much for the good thoughts susan <3

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  13. Lynn I am very sorry about the loss of your friends. I always wonder what to say in these times but words really are never adequate are they. Just know my thoughts are with you and the families of your friends.

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    1. i feel the same way--even though i have lost many people in my life i always know nothing to say---thank you so much for your kind thoughts

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  14. Lynn,
    Sorry to hear your news. Take solace in your happy memories of time spent together.

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    1. i really do find solace in those times and memories, thank you maria

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