Tuesday, August 14, 2012

mom

okay so i have been feeling the pull to write for the last day or two---

today it is one year since my mom passed away and is also my parents' wedding anniversary--

last year just a week or so before she died, i was still planning an anniversary reception for my parents at our church----i had even ordered the cake, which was going to be kinda like a wedding cake---

when i started my blogging, i also started the awful thing of writing on each child's birthday and grand-child--also the death dates of my little angels----at one point i vowed to stop this painful, hard to keep up with idea-----but today i am breaking my rule and writing about my mom---

lately as you have read, i have opened myself up a little more, something i don't mind doing now and then but i don't want to always have my blog about me and my trials and tribulations---so i will share some of the things i remember about mom---trying to keep them light----because, she was very very private and reserved--

it is hard to pin point one or two memories about my mother--i mean it was more that she was just there---i always knew i could talk to her about anything and even if she thought i was completely wrong, she was still on my side------

she was about the under-dog and showed great patience with people's faults, especially boys and men----to be truthful, she kinda thought women were out to get men----haha

i remember how she sang--at church and around the house, how she would shuffle her feet around and try to sound bluesy as she belted out certain classics---

i so fondly remember when i was a teenager, coming home almost every other day to find some darling out-fit for me----she loved to buy clothes for me---she was over weight most of her adult life and i think she got a kick out of dressing me instead of the dreaded shopping for clothes trips for herself-----i so understand that now that i am not the cutesy tiny thing i once was haha---i have told robyn that she is my doll i am dressing---kinda like paper dolls---

a memory that is so vivid to me was no big deal really---when mcdonald's first came out with the chef salads, my mom and i stopped to get one---we ate it in the car---i can still see her as she ate her's and hear her saying "these are the best things"-----we ate in the car a lot as kids, it was the thing to do---my dad was just relating yesterday, how my mother would dress us up like we were going to church, just to go to the "hot shoppe" or "shoney's" only to sit at the curb service ----i am sure that is why i have always been fond of eating in the car, which took a long time for frank to tolerate---

i may have shared this with you before--but i guess i would have to say, one of my best days as a child--when my mom was the best and coolest mom in the neighborhood---it was when she gave a full blown birthday party for my troll doll---cook-out, and movies for all my friends with their troll doll too---

we all miss mom so much, and can still hear her saying some of the things she was noted for saying----so thanks mom--anytime i feel inadequate or scared, i will think of your great words of wisdom--"it's good enough for those people" and "that's nice but don't get me anything like that"

lastly i leave you with the last song my mom and i sang together---it's a little twist on her woman blaming :)

                

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  1. What wonderful memories! Your mom sounds like a very special woman. I hope my kids think of me like this someday.

    *hugs*

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    1. awww thanks dana--she was a really cool person--and i am sure your kids will have all kinds of wonderful memories of you <3

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  2. It's great to remember your mom this way! She sounds like a wonderful woman. It's interesting where we pick up our little habits like eating in the car!

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    1. haha i know, but frank would only say it is very messy, he still hates to eat in the car---thanks brownie :)

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  3. Love Ella F. and that song! My Mom passed away nearly 8 years ago, one month after my sis called me to come and visit as she was in the hospital. (family is in Georgia) I'm so grateful to my sister for that. (Mom had been sick for a year before with various things that the docs couldn't identify).

    I wrote about the amazing plane flight after her memorial service, when Ivan was hitting the southeast, and weather was holding up flights. It's the Hurricane Ivan bit in the link below. (The Right Place, must have been the Write Time)

    Link:
    http://dghudson-rainwriting.blogspot.ca/2011/09/right-place-must-have-been-write-time.html

    Another heartfelt post, Lynn. Enjoyed it.

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    1. thanks so much d.g. and thanks for the link :)

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  4. Lovely posting and What a nice tribute to your mom. :) Enjoyed reading your posting today.

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  5. A birthday party for a troll doll, wow.

    Lynn, I just want you to know that I read this and just take a moment to honor your beautiful mom.

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    1. yeah that party was pretty sweet! thanks so much suze :)

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  7. What a very sweet and touching post. Your mom sounds so fun and interesting, and like a really fantastic person! I enjoyed reading this.

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    1. she was very complicated and easy to be around at the same time--thanks karen :)

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  8. That was a song my mom sang around the house, too. We remember our mother's by what they gave us. My heart gave a little tug one day when my daughter said, years after her death, "I still miss grandma."

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    1. oh i know, i still miss my grandmothers so much--they surely stay with us--thanks joanne :)

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  9. A wonderful and touching post. Thank you for sharing those sweet memories. I like eating in the car too. Sonic is my favorite place for that.

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    1. oh yeah we love sonics--especially their onion rings--thanks christine :)

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  10. Very nice tribute to your Mom.

    I still miss mine, very much.

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    1. i think we always will dearly miss them--thanks ms. a :)

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  11. a great tribute to your mom. I have songs stuck in my head that remind me of my dad. It's been 18 years and I still miss him.

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    1. yes isn't it funny how the music can bring someone back so vividly--thanks susan :)

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  12. A birthday party for your trolls! What a wonderful special memory. I know she was a treasure and can feel the missing in your writing. I don't think we ever are too old to need our mommas. Thinking of you today!

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    1. i am sure you are right, we never do reach that age--thanks joyce :)

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  13. That's wonderful you have such sweet memories of your mother. Thank you for sharing about her.

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    1. i am blessed to have the memories-thanks cynthia :)

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  14. This is so beautiful, Lynn. I love the troll birthday party--what a fond memory.
    (((Hugs))) to you. I would so love to meet you in person some day.

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    1. awwww thanks susan--i would so love to meet you one day too!<3

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  15. What a nice post, and such wonderful memories. Sending cyber-hugs your way. Thanks for sharing, Lynn.

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    1. thanks katie and hugging you right back :)

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  16. No wonders you're down. You lost one (and maybe your very best) best friend in life. Mom's that care and we know it are not as plentiful as one might think. They are precious jewels.

    Prayers for your comfort, I am praying.

    T

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    1. she really was my best friend--thanks for your sweet understanding teresa :)

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  17. those are some wonderful memories you have of your mom.

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  18. Your mom sounds like she was a great person. I love the idea of a troll doll birthday party. I might have to borrow that idea!

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    1. oh be my guess, i can tell you-your kids will never forget--thanks sherry :)

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  19. Those are wonderful memories of your mother! I always find remembering people and sharing wonderful stories that I have about them very therapeutic. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. it really does help, doesn't it--thanks so much :)

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  20. you are blessed to have these memories. i so miss my mom too...I miss sharing my life with her.

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    1. i know, the memories keep coming--i know what you mean--it's almost everyday, i think, oh i wonder what mama would say about this or that--thanks annmarie :)

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  21. Very touching post remembering your mom. I still have both my parents, and I know my life will not be the same without them. I dread that loss, which is probably sooner than I think. I pray writing this brought you some sweet moments. I think writing is very therapeutic. God bless you, girl.

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    1. i am glad you are so close to your parents---i hope your dad is doing well and your mom of course---writing is very therapeutic--thank you and God bless you too mare :)

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  22. Great remembrance of your mom Lynn. She sounds very special. I would have love to have been at the troll doll party. Thanks for stopping by my blog today Lynn. It helped to bring me back around.

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    1. oh i am glad you are back around, julie---yeah you would have liked that troll party, it was the only one anyone had ever gone to haha--thanks julie :)

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  23. Thank you for sharing such lovely and precious memories of your mom, Lynn. I love that you all got dressed up to go out to eat in the car - it's the small things that are so special, aren't they?

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    1. it really is--and we have kinda kept it going--thanks susan :)

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  24. These are great memories, as well as a song by a very talented woman.

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    1. i know--no one does it like my mama or ella! thanks cecilia :)

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  25. I can't even imagine losing a parent though the older mine get the more the thought pops up in the back of my mind. Where I immediately shove it back down. But you are truly blessed to be comforted by such wonderful memories of your precious mother!

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    1. i know--we never really think of it happening--but you are right, my memories are such a comfort--thanks pam :)

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  26. It has been 10 years since my mother passed on but I remember her last words as if they were yesterday. They make me cringe. "I've always loved you, you know"

    Hardly cringeworthy you may think but the question in my mind ever since has been 'Why would she think I thought otherwise?'. I know we had our problems over the years but the fact she loved me was never a doubt.

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    1. i think i can understand your mom saying that--i think i would be saying that in my last breath too, to my children and loved ones--i hope you find peace in her words--thanks jp :)

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  27. I like your mother without even having ever met her. Your tribute was enough to convince me. You honored her well.


    Lee
    A Faraway View

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    1. awwww that makes me happy--thanks lee :)

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  28. I agree with Lee. Your mom really sounds like a wonderful person, and I'm sorry you lost her. I also love the idea of a party for your trolls. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to access the link, but I'm sure it was a lovely duet. Julie

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    1. haha yeah the troll party was a good time for all--sorry you couldn't hear ella--thanks julie :)

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  29. Your mom sounded like an awesome lady. You were very blessed to have a mom like her in your life to create such fond memories for you. I love that she threw a party for your troll doll. That is just too sweet!

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    1. she was pretty neat--thanks theresa :)

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  30. This post is a beautiful tribute to your mother! I do talk to my mother about everything. Your in my thoughts and prayers.

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    1. that is such a gift, isn't it-to be able to talk to your mother about everything--i was able to do that as well--thanks so much marie :)

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  31. Anniversaries are always double edged; joyful and poignant. You've written a lovely tribute to your mother and obviously she's still very much with you. You're memories relate that.

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    1. they really do evoke both feelings---thank you so much:)

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  32. precious words! thanks for sharing her with us!

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  33. A very nice tribute to you Mom. I miss mine.

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  34. Oh, Lynn! I feel it, too. She must have been a wonderful woman, she raised you to be one, too.

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  35. Loved this glimpse of your mom. We are nearing my mom's 9th year of her passing. Your post reminded me to take a peek back at the poem I wrote for my mom: http://mainelywrite.blogspot.com/2012/02/what-i-learned-from-my-mother.html
    There was no special occasion, just a need to write it. And as Dana said above, I'm hoping my kids remember me fondly and appreciate some of my craziness.

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    1. thanks donna, i am going to go read it now :)

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