People Pleasers

 I think I used to be way more of a people pleaser

There is lots of discussion on why people are pleasers or not- I think some do it because they truly put others before themselves but I would venture to guess that the majority of people pleasers do so for one of two primary reasons

First it is the obvious one- they want to be liked

And my second opinion is a little different than the first one but closely related- they don’t think they are worthy of love or greatly fear not being accepted 

To me the subtle difference is the first one likes to build on a pretty good opinion of themselves- wanting to keep it that way- the second- a deeper unhealthy view of themselves 

I learned long ago to say no- and I’m not sure that’s entirely a good thing

It is definitely necessary at times but can lead into a selfish disposition 

In the Bible it speaks of being rebuked is better than flattery 

- now that’s when it’s extremely hard for me to not be a people pleaser- because most always I would never purposely hurt someone’s feelings or make them feel awkward or embarrassed 

So I guess I could be a tad more of a people pleaser in that way 

I think our desire to fit in certainly lessens with age and hopefully wisdom 

Honestly the world would be a harsher place without all of those pleasant people pleasers